Since my last blog post I’ve met some new clients, Jan and Richard about looking after their two fur babies, a coloured cob called Scooby, and a Fjord called Raf. I look forward to taking care of them while Jan and Richard head off on holiday later in the year. Jan was also interested in possibly having lessons when the weather gets a little warmer. Her aim, as is the case for many riders, is to be a better rider, so that she and Raf can enjoy their hacking more together, and to build on the bond they have started to create since buying him earlier this year.
This is the under pinning desire for most of us when we look to have lessons. Whether you have aspirations of competing in dressage or jumping, you want to do Agility or Trec, or you just like to hack in different places, the basis of having lessons is to improve you and your horse, to enjoy your chosen path together as a team.
In my last blog post I mentioned that I had started to realise, Buddy and I had been working against each other. I’m not really certain when our partnership started to drift in this way. It may well have started in a minor way before I went away, but 3 months away in the summer, on my return pushing him to take on my new learning, and not giving him enough time to adjust, certainly made it worse. In the last week we haven’t had much time in the school (with a couple of unfortunate events draining my time) but when I have worked with him I’ve been more mindful of my energy, and attitude to what we’ve been doing, with a clear thought of what we are doing, and it feels like we are beginning to repair our relationship.
Just as it has taken time to unknowingly create this friction between us it will take time to bring us back to working as a partnership again. It can be frustrating at times as I know how it felt when we worked together as a team in the past, and that desire to have it again…. I want it now! But I must remind myself, I need to take every step to get back there. If I skip over anything it will only make the journey longer, as I will have to go back and cover those steps (and more) again! I’m not sure who said it first but I’m reminded of a quote i’ve heard and read from many coaches/trainers – Everything takes as long as it takes. There are no shortcuts.